The following is a slightly edited & abbreviated version of a radio show on the energy of relationships by Dr. Vic of TEP.Global.
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Dr. Vic
Hey everyone, Danielle and Dr. Vic today are here with the Energy Paradigm, offering a different lens, a new perspective for the way forward, not only for people but for humanity, creating a future with the high vibrational energy of possibility to create good for all around the globe. That’s us.
Dr. Vic
Welcome to our show, today is November 4th, one day post-election here in the United States, and you could actually cut the air with a knife. I think everybody’s sitting at home, biting off their nails, and waiting for the results. I for sure have been checking, and I had to clear my throat all morning long, it’s that tense. I’m very sensitive to energy. So the energy out there, you can cut it with a knife, it’s actually very quiet out here, surprisingly quiet, and I think everybody’s sitting and waiting, [wondering] what’s going on. That’s something that you can only feel, you cannot think about it, and that’s energy, and we are all about energy. It’s not rational. It’s not something that happens in the brain. It’s something that you sense, that you know, and that you feel. So today, we are going to talk about the energy of relationships.
Dr. Vic
The energy of relationships is actually based on energy, the universal language of humanity. It’s how we relate to each other, but it’s also how we relate to ourselves. You cannot escape relationships, because you’re always with yourself, and we’re looking at both sides today, and we’re looking at how to transcend the physical and access the unconscious energies, because we often don’t know what’s really going on, but they vibrate in our field, we all have a field around us. They resonate with us in between people, and they radiate in and around us, attracting things into our lives. So that’s what we’re going to talk about today, but before we dive into that, and maybe you have been here, you’re here for the first time and wonder “who are those two people?”.
Dr. Vic
We [will] give you a short summary of who we are and how we got to be the Energy Paradigm. So we are all about the energy of people, teams, organizations and nations. The energy you bring to the table every second of your life, it counts. It is important. It makes or breaks how you envision your life. It makes things happen within you, and all around you. Most of those energy dynamics happen unconsciously without us really knowing what’s going on, but we can feel it. Have you ever been in a meeting where you felt off, where it felt like somebody’s scratching with their nails over a chalkboard? Have you ever been with a family member that drove you crazy? That’s nothing that you think that’s something that you very much feel, right? That’s energy. So how did we get there?
Dr. Vic
We’ve been interviewing, assessing and profiling people for 20 plus years now for Global Fortune companies, for national Fortune companies, and for midsize companies to optimize their talent and the potential of their teams, the individuals, the teams and the entire organization. We have been doing this with aptitude testing, personality profiling, psychometrics, etc, etc. Until one day we realized we were missing something, something is not in the equation for us, and we found it it’s the energy that everybody brings to the table. You can have the most talented person sitting in the room if the energy is off, that person is disabled, they cannot even think straight.
So that is not only true for organizations, it’s also true for your private life, if the energy is off, you feel off, you don’t feel yourself, and then things from there go astray.
Dr. Vic
So that’s why we founded the Energy Paradigm, because we knew there is energy around. If you find what I call the good button in persons, you know, when we talk about people, we always talk about the bad button, you know, the thing that sets you off and makes you fly off the handle. There are good buttons for people. If you can find through a very amicable conversation, the good button in somebody and you can touch it gently, that person starts to light up. That’s what we’re doing with the Energy Paradigm. We help teams, business organizations, individuals, nations optimize their energy and reach their glow state, because when you hit the good button in somebody, the person lights up, and they’re happy, and they’re content, and they’re present, and they can do magical things that they even didn’t know that they could do. That’s what we do.
Dr. Vic
Now, today, we talk about relationships. For us, relationships are the foundation of humanity. As I said before, with all relationships, there is no us right? So let me take you back to a story that happened to me quite a while back, because ragged relationships can make or break not only your life, but also your career.
So I will share with you a little anecdote from my career here. I was in my mid 20s, I was studying and as you can hear from my accent, I used to live in Switzerland. I was studying in Switzerland, and I studied electrical engineering, computer science and business administration. I was not the most engaged and motivated students, so I passed about half of my time as a freelancing programmer. I implemented databases for people and for companies within Europe. I was pretty successful doing that and I had great clients. One of them was Credit Swiss, the big Swiss bank was one of my clients. I had large cell phone companies as my clients. At a certain time, the question arose for me, should I actually drop my studies and start the company full throttle, start hiring people after business? I was young at that time, maybe also naive, probably naive. So I thought it would be a great idea to talk to my mom. I think you know how the rest of that story ended. So I never founded that company, I stuck to my studies. Several years later, as you can see, I’ve aged a little bit. In the meantime, we are here and we are doing the Energy Paradigm, because we want to help people follow their passion, we want to help people find what ignites them, and follow what makes their heart sing. It starts with relationships, the relationship to yourself and the relationship to others.
Danielle
Thank you, Victor, that was a beautiful example. I think all of us can relate to that, listening to the wrong person and not really listening to ourselves. As you so beautifully said, it really begins with the relationship we have with ourselves, to know our own essence, to know who we are, and when we enter relationships with other people, they have an unbelievable impact. They can either send us forward, or they can send us back, they can build us up, they can put us down. What we actually really want in the end is, we want to be seen, we want to be able to know our own essence, and have that respect with the person that we’re with.
Danielle
Along with that as well is that oftentimes, we move around in circles in certain patterns. We go through these exact same patterns of relationships over and over again. Some are good, some are not. Some are like revisiting Nightmare on Elm Street or a haunted Halloween house, and “Oh my goodness, not again, not you again, I keep seeing you. Why do I keep dating someone like you?” That’s exactly what we want. What the Energy Paradigm does is we want you to find your own essence to take your wings and fly according to your own flight pattern, and having someone else who you’re in relationship with who mirrors the magic back to you on good days and days when you feel downtrodden or you feel confused. Someone that’s always bringing the light back to you, encouraging you and letting you know that everything is going to be okay. That respects the beautiful essence that we all carry within us.
Dr. Vic
That’s absolutely right and beautiful. Absolutely beautiful. I want to say I love my mom. Okay, so there’s no bad feelings here. It’s just those big decisions in your life, they are yours, nobody else can make the decision for you. I think that is one thing where you need to be sovereign, you need to be in charge, you are the leader of your own life. That is also true for relationships, and we will get there later. I don’t want to jump too much ahead. What we want to do is put you in the driver’s seat, relationships are not something that happens to you that you are delivered to actually all of life is not, it is something where you have a say, it is something where you can make decisions. It’s something that you choose. Most of our choices are unconscious, and we are bringing those, we want to find what are the mechanics of these choices? How do you bring them to the surface? What can you do with them?
Danielle
Beautifully said, and I think as well, that it’s very important, during this time, that we become more conscious than ever, the time demands that our relations demand, we become conscious that we’re not, as you said, we’re not delivered to relationships, we don’t just model the way relationships have always been done in our family dynamic or even at work, that we are aware of what’s happening around us. That, in particular, even in the family construct, that we have intergenerational transmissions of ideas and values that we often blindly adopt without knowing any better, certain habits, certain traditions, certain likes and dislikes, without even thinking, “Do I like this? Or do I not?” Then, when you enter a relationship, you often enter with a mistaken identity, because you might not really have taken the time to become conscious of your essence, or truly who you are.
Dr. Vic
I think here exactly, that’s the point where it starts, what we can do with a different lens lens, a different angle and fresh perspective, with the energy perspective. I think that’s why we have been asked to write a book about relationships. Because you can go to Amazon, there have been over 100,000 books on relationships out there. What the majority of them are treating with pathologies [is] the stuff that can go wrong. I think we don’t even want to go there, because what we want to write about is “what can go right?” Once you are in the driver’s seat, what can you do in order to make a relationship work? What can you do to end the relationship if it doesn’t work? What are your boundaries? How do you define it?
Dr. Vic
These things do not start on the physical, they all start in the energetic realm, you have a hunch, you have a feeling, you have an inner knowing if something is working out or not. Whenever you get these little signals, energetic signals, it’s time to act. When you know something, when you sense something, when you feel something. By knowing, I mean the deep inner knowing, it’s not thinking, it’s not rationalizing something, you just have the inner conviction: it is so, and that knowledge comes from nowhere. Some people call it intuition that is informing you. Once you learn how to listen to it, it can inform you throughout the day. So relationships are much more than we’ve been taught and told. The societal model of relationships that we have been acquainted with, that has been portrayed to us, without looking at energy, it just doesn’t work. Look at Classic relationships, what have we been told to look for? Let’s look at the romantic relationship. What do we look for? Influence, looks –
Danielle
Presentation.
Dr. Vic
– presentation, manners, money, all external things. You can then enter into a robotic labor relationship, and as long as you have the rose glasses on, it might work but as soon as the rose glasses come off, you start actually seeing the energy. That might be completely different. How many times have we been fooled by somebody who is on the surface really nice and smooth and a smooth talker, and very generous and all these things. Then, once you open yourself up, you start seeing a completely different person right there. That’s the energy, and that’s where we need to go, because otherwise we are going to recreate the pathologies in your life, and then you can start reading those 100,000 plus books, yes.
Dr. Vic
What we want to do here is, see, what does it take for you to get ready to enter a relationship. Because, it starts with a relationship with yourself. It starts with seeing the energy, feeling the vibration, the resonance, the radiance, listening to your heart, listening to this inner guidance, and we need to widen the lens because the material stuff obviously doesn’t work. Looking outside in our world today, it is more dysfunctional than anything that I’ve ever seen.
Danielle
With that, we really need to challenge the disbelief that we have in ourselves, that relationships can be beautiful, that you can be seen, that it’s peaceful, that it’s loving, that you can be loved. It’s actually beautiful. Once you find one that works, they can work. Oftentimes, we have to get over the projection that we have, “oh my gosh, here we go again, who am I going to end up meeting or who am I going to end up dating this time?” Out of that fear, and out of past behavior, we’re scared to death, and we’re often afraid to open up. We take all these protective mechanisms, so we don’t get hurt again. If we can find a way to manage the energy, and we alter our way of thinking and the belief that we have about this, it can really open us up to something new, where the energy matches the goodness, and the intentions we have in moving forward in this field.
Dr. Vic
That’s beautiful, because in every relationship, there is an intent, there is a motive. Then, there is action that follows, which means talking to each other, relating to each other in the physical sense, how do we relate one person to another? How do we talk? What is our body language? How do we validate the person before us? How safe do I feel to show my vulnerabilities and all these things? All of this starts on the energetic side. If you don’t look into the energy of how relationships are created, you get a mismatch, because I show up with a certain charge, with a certain vibration, resonance and radiance in my field, and then somebody else shows up with theirs.
As soon as we approach each other, not only physically but also in mind, we create what we call a sphere of relationships and there can be several people in there.
Dr. Vic
So, this is not limited to how you relate to your mom, or how you relate to your romantic partner. This can be a team at work, it can be your community, it can be the people in your club, right? It can be your entire organization. So what is created and how this co-resonates and vibrates in the energy, that is what you feel. If there’s disharmony and friction in there, you will create havoc with a little time delay on the physical plane, and that is why those books who treat all the pathologies and dysfunctionality, they start too late. The damage is already done. It’s almost irrecoverable.
Dr. Vic
That’s also why so many family therapies and couple therapies actually do not work and why psychoanalysis [doesn’t work], because the damage is already done. It is too late. We need to start way earlier here, before something actually happens. This is our opportunity to shape the relationship by energizing our field every single day. You can do that there are many different ways you can sync: you can you can sing, you can chat, you can play an instrument, you can walk, you can hike, you can meditate, you can pray, you can go to church service, it doesn’t matter, it needs to be something that makes your heart sing, that makes you get into a zone where you are happy, because that happiness starts, if you repeat it over and over and over again, that happiness starts vibrating in your field, and guess what’s going to happen? People who are equally happy will show up in your life, and that is how we build functional relationships. It is not by saying, “Oh, geez, I don’t want to repeat the last experience”, because then you are in the vibration of the last experience, you’re going to attract the same bleep person again. Then it’s this “Oh, you again,” type of experience right away, you say, “oh, geez, I just, I just divorced from you. And here you are, again, you just look different”, right? It’s the same thing all over again. We see that so often that people repeat, keep repeating their pattern.
Dr. Vic
Now. Danielle, you went there before. How do we learn relationships? How does it work? Is it by trial and error? Is it random? Is it following our desires or impulses? Is it the role models that we are exposed to? I think pretty much everyone comes from a somewhat dysfunctional household, so that’s what we learned, right? So ask yourself, what is really informing how you do relationships? Are you repeating the pattern of your childhood? Or do you go completely against them? How can you access this and not repeat the past experience? You mentioned the family trauma, maybe you want to talk a little bit about that?
Danielle
I think one of the most important things, like we said earlier, is that you need to become conscious. This time and our relationships demand that we become conscious of ourselves, and that we become self aware of who we are, where we come from, what the family construct was, and really who we are, what our essence is that we cannot do randomly. If we are unconscious, and we go into a relationship, it’s like wearing a big stock pot over our head, or hitting the pinata, you are just going to hit on any donkey tail, you are completely unaware of what you’re choosing. It’s only then when we make a mistake where we think oh my goodness, that I was completely unmatched. One thing that we also have to realize is that relationships don’t just happen to you, you create it, it’s part of your responsibility, and with that, you need to take the responsibility to find out about yourself to become conscious.
With relationships that happen in our lives, it’s not just on a field of relationships, the reverberations are in our mental field and our emotional field, and in our physical field.
Danielle
So if something’s going on, and it’s also reverberating on those fields, you will often have certain body pains that are associated with the energy that’s not aligned with you. These are very important things that we need to take into account as we move forward. To answer your question, there’s many different factors that affect why we go into relationships. One of the foundations being that we are relational beings, with ourselves and with others, and most people don’t even want to be in relation with anybody else, because of whatever happened to them. They’d rather stay at home, and Netflix all day long.
Danielle
Unfortunately, that’s really not the best for ourselves to lock us all away, that we are always in relationship with one person or another. If we can be aware of the energy we bring to the table, we have an opportunity to manage its flow and find energies when we work on ourselves. We find energies that match ours because in the end, water finds its own level. So when we take care of ourselves when we manage our energy, when we self actualize and self realize who we are and what we’re about, we have better chances of meeting someone (if we’ve done the work) we will have better chances that we will meet someone at that level who’s just as conscious, so we don’t wreak havoc on each other’s lives.
Dr. Vic
Absolutely. I want to quickly go back to the family trauma part,
Danielle
Yes.
Dr. Vic
Scientists have found out that trauma is inherited through genes. I want to claim that it is also inherited through the energy that is given on from one generation to the next. That’s why we keep repeating patterns that we have unconsciously absorbed.
Danielle
It’s just like people saying, “oh, my gosh, you have a terrible temper. Your great grandfather had a horrible temper, and the whole village ran away from him.” or whatever. There’s an intergenerational transmission of trauma, values and morals. For example, the Kennedys are always like this. They’re always success oriented, they go into politics, “this is what our family does. It’s in our genes. Our family does it just like this, we’ve always been strong and sturdy.”
Dr. Vic
It is exactly the same thing with relationships, because it’s all about the energy that we bring to the table, every second of our lives, the energy we carry into our lives and relationships. That’s the key. Knowing that, that’s real consciousness. I think the real consciousness is when you understand energy, going to a yoga studio, and just doing some movements doesn’t do it. You need to MEAN IT, you need to want it.
Dr. Vic
Today we are talking about relationships and the energy of relationships. We call it “Relationships 2.0.” Accessing a whole new dimension, how to navigate the energetic dynamics of relationships. That’s what we’re all about. That’s what we’re talking about today. In the first part of this show, we talked about how humanity actually runs on relationships, even if you live alone in the woods and a cabin, you have a relationship with yourself. Good luck with that one because most people have difficulties looking in the mirror, right? I think a lot of people would actually run away if they were invited to live alone, somewhere for an extended period of time and be left with their mind chattering. Relationships are the social fabric, it’s what binds us together. Right now the social fabric is under so much attack, social media, mass media, but also what’s reverberating in the air. I can feel it. As I said before, I’ve been clearing my throat all morning long, because there’s so much anxiety in the air, probably because of the US election.
Dr. Vic
It’s not only that, there’s also this war against evil going on. We are also going through a big shift right now, right? Everything is breaking up, the things that we didn’t want to see are coming up. We need to find a new place and how we relate to this world. I’m not talking about the new normal here. I’m talking about what’s coming next, and how can we navigate it? And how can we work with those energies? How can we elevate humanity? How can we elevate how we live together, how we find the good in each other? How we access the possibility in each other and we need a new angle, we need a different lens for this.
We need a new paradigm, the Energy Paradigm you need to check with, we need to go far beyond the physical to access the dynamics that underlie everything that then becomes material.
Dr. Vic
Every relationship doesn’t matter whether it’s with a relative or with a random stranger. There is a split second before the relationship starts, maybe a millisecond, and in that millisecond, the relationship is pure potential, pure possibility. Anything can happen, it’s pure energy, because nothing has happened yet. But it’s energetic, two force fields, two energetic fields are coming together in some shape or form, it doesn’t even need to be in the same room, you can have a relationship with somebody who’s remote, and start that. Let’s say there’s somebody in the room and you turn your head, or you can actually sense the person. That’s when the relationship starts. That blink of an eye moment is pure possibility. Where you take it from there depends on the charge and your field and the charge in the field of the other person, or the other people, depending on how many people are coming together.
Danielle
It very much depends on the intention that each person has when they’re coming to the sphere. If they want to save you, if they want something from you, if it’s nothing but kindness, compassion, you feel it that first second you’re with them, the first second. How many times have we entered into relationships where you just knew “I don’t know, they’re so-so, they’re okay”, and you entered the relationship anyway? Eight out of 10 times that has probably blown up in your face, been a total disaster. But, you can then say, “I knew it, I knew it, when I got to know when I first met them, there was something off.”
That energy is talking to that energy that is present. What we would like is we’d like you, we would love people to get familiar with this energy. Because it’s a language unto its own. It’s invisible, but you feel it, you know it in your bones. Only you know that it is a certainty within yourself.
Dr. Vic
Its own vocabulary, and its own language. We need to learn the words because they are not physical words, they’re energetic. And that’s why we keep repeating, repeating, sense it, note it, feel it, because it’s not a brain process. It’s not something rational, not something that you can compute.
Danielle
Exactly. What we were talking about earlier, before the break, you know, going to yoga or meditation, just like we said earlier, the energy has effects in our mental or emotional and our physical sphere. As the lovely Caroline May says, “your biology is your biography.” So whatever energetic effects are going on, within you, around you, will have reverberation effects in each of those fields. Like we were saying earlier, our call for you to become conscious: how do you do that? You become still. Maybe this is a good point for you to just turn off, no news all the time. Turn off social media, go into the quiet. It’s like those car aficionados, what happens if you run your car 100 miles an hour, for hours on end, and you don’t break and you don’t turn off the car, you’re gonna burn it out. It’s the same thing with ourselves. That’s how we become conscious. Turn it all off. Learn to take a walk outside, learn to breathe, learn how to do long, deep breathing, how to take relaxing breaths, get it tuned back to your center, learn to ground, take off your stinky shoes and socks and walk in the grass, walk in the sand. I mean, for God’s sake, it’s free outside. Walk outside.
Danielle
Or, if you have a spiritual practice or religious practice, learn to get quiet, learn to feel not just empty words that were just a machine and we are just expressing a mantra or prayer or a biblical text. Feel it. And if you pray, feel it with your whole body, soul and mind. Feel it with your essence. Pray with your being if that’s what you do, whatever something does, to quiet you down. That makes you feel good, that makes you feel connected, that makes you feel serene, that makes you feel connected to something, that doesn’t use alternative mind altering products. Start with that, learn to become quiet. Learn to breathe. Perhaps you can try sitting for 20 minutes in the quiet, deep Buddha belly breaths. Light a candle, light, some sage, maybe you sing or dance around the room, maybe you rattle, maybe you drum, maybe your kids do a little prayer for you, or something where you can even involve your whole family, if that’s what you need to do, or if you’d like to do.
Dr. Vic
Once you start doing this, not immediately, but soon, you will see a shift. The shift is you become more tolerant. You will cut others some slack, you will cut yourself some slack. Most importantly, you will start seeing the good in others. To what you said, and that’s normally your sentence Danielle, but you say people tell you in the first second who they are, yes? It’s very interesting, because often we don’t listen. Listening is not only with our ears, but with our heart and with our vibration, you need to see, does it resonate with us or not? Is it those nails scratching on the board? Does it rub us the wrong way? With that, what happens in relationships is as soon as you have to ask, it’s not the right thing. You know, often we go to somebody and say hi, is he the right one for me? Is she the right one for me? You already have adults in your field.
That energy comes from somewhere. That’s the inner guidance, it helps you make that decision. As soon as you start asking these questions, you already know that something is off.
Danielle
When you’re in your certainty, you know, without a shadow of a doubt, and nobody and nothing is gonna get you away from that idea, that person, that product, that’s a done deal. Only you know that no one can tell you that.
Dr. Vic
It takes a decision. There’s actually several decisions that need to be made. The first decision is, can I see that good in the other person? I had the great honor (I mentioned this in our past shows) of a private audience with His Holiness the Dalai Lama, and he told me “things start falling apart as soon as we are suspicious, and we’re looking here we’re looking down, we’re comparing ourselves and what is this person scheming against me? That is, what erodes the social fabric. This is what breaks relationships.” The question here is, can I be conscious? Can I feel the energy? No extensive field? And can I see the good in the other person? Of course there are people out there who do horrible things. Of course, there are people out there who mistreat us. Of course, there are people out there who rubbed us the wrong way. Then you have the opportunity to walk away. There is always a choice, you do not have to be in a relationship that is abusive, even staying for the fear of what comes next is not the answer, because there’s always a next, there’s always something else out there.
Dr. Vic
I think the core message is to let go of this suspicion and to see the good in elevating each other. What is the motive of the relationship? Do I want something? Or can I give something? What is my intent? Am I going to put this person down or am I going to lift them up? Most of the time, it doesn’t cost a dime, a smile, a good wish that resonates in your field. “I wish you well.” People sense that and you get a smile back. It’s not rocket science. It’s also not something that is really expensive. It is something that happens on the energetic plane. If you go with good intentions into a meeting, you will see that magic can suddenly happen. If people are obnoxious, abrasive, you can actually energetically have a really firm conversation with them. You don’t even need to say a word, but an energy you say “not with me my buddy. Here is my border. You are not going to trespass” and you will see that the energy of that interaction changes, some people suddenly get really friendly. Why? Because you set the tone, every relationship has a tone. You can influence that tone through your vibration through what you resonate with, and what you don’t resonate with. What are you sending out? What’s the radiance?
Danielle
Even in our personal relationships, we also have to have the ability to also set boundaries and limitations to people’s energy and behavior that impedes us as well. For instance, if somebody is in a position with a very unpleasant boss, or in our personal relationships, if you’re in a relationship with somebody, and you have intrusions from the in-laws, being able to set limitations and boundaries on people’s behavior, who seek to empower you, dismiss you, ridicule you.
Dr. Vic
I think there is a hierarchy of relationships, especially in romantic relationships, and in-laws and your own father and mother, you need to make a decision, that’s again, a decision, which relationship is more important than your partner. It doesn’t even matter male, female, who cares, LGBT, whatever, it doesn’t matter because we are transcending religion. We are transcending language, we are transcending nationality, we are transcending ethnic background, it doesn’t matter, we’re talking about energy. That’s the same for everybody. Your partner needs to be number one, and there’s no negotiation-
Danielle
It’s you both against the world, you’re you’re in your own bubble, there is you allow nothing and never to come between you. You’re on the same page.
Dr. Vic
Absolutely. And you better grow a spine to enforce that, because people will try to intrude, the mother in-law will try to influence, the father in-law will try to skew-
Danielle
Your frat brother will try to enter your marriage too, who knows,
Dr. Vic
– Will try to talk you out of it, to help you see the bad side: don’t go there.
Danielle
Because that’s when the suspicion enters, that’s when we lose compassion for someone in something we claim to hold, to hold in our hands, to hold tender to our heart-
Dr. Vic
When two become one, that’s when you enter the sphere. That sphere needs to be defended. It is sacred, it is sacred ground and you’re working with the energy on that sacred ground, it is a level playing field, it’s not skewed, not one is better than the other, that messes it all up. Right?
Danielle
Hallelujah!
Dr. Vic
Relationships, in their pure form, are built on the freedom to be: you allow your partner to be, can you feel the emotional release, if you say very when you say that, say it. I allow my partner to be, all that garbage falls off. And my partner allows me to be and I allow myself to be. That is beautiful. If you’re sensitive to energy, you can feel that one. Go out into your workplace and allow others to be, you don’t even need to tell them a word, you can just walk by and say “I allow you to be ” and see if they get into their glow state. That’s how you light up people. That’s how you light up yourself. That is the ultimate goal of every relationship. If we could do that, this planet would be completely different, humanity would snap back to the golden age. When you see people you judge them on their capability to see energy and on the beauty of their thoughts.
Danielle
We’re coming from the premise that there is good in everybody. That if we can enter relationships, and that includes ourselves, where nobody, not even yourself is too much or too little of any quality. Any number on the scale. Nothing. You’re not too much. You’re not too little. You’re at the perfect place just for you. Along your journey, to have that compassion and that love for yourself and extend that to others.
Dr. Vic
Which brings us back to the motive. What is the motive for this relationship? Can I allow this person to be? Do I want to help them shine their light, what is the intent of your interaction, even before you interact, the intent of the energy that you are giving, offering? Then the action follows whatever you’re doing with your body, and whatever you’re doing with how you’re speaking, how you’re looking at each other, that is the essence of a relationship. That is the spiritual side if you want, and I hope you don’t get freaked out now.
We talked about this, there’s a physical part, mental part, there’s an emotional part, and the spiritual part to it. That’s the elevation of our togetherness.
Danielle
You want to be, and surround yourself with those people who fuel the spirit within you, who fuel your essence, who support you, and encourage you to go after always wanting to be an artist, or take an art class, or flying lessons, or gardening or cooking, whatever it may be, it doesn’t really matter. Even just to be in your own home to express yourself in a certain way. Where you can be as Brene Brown would say, “your vulnerable self” you can be your fragile real self, and someone holds you tenderly, someone who sees you who hears you, you want to be with someone that encouraged you, encourages you to be the spirit that you are, to bring that light to the world to let it shine. I mean, as parents, what’s one of the worst things in the world is your child is unhappy.
Dr. Vic
You clip their wings,
Danielle
You clip their wings. This is what we all want, we want our loved ones to be happy. And with that comes the fueling of their essence, letting them fly according to their own flight plan. Having someone be aligned with that, and saying “go for it. Go. If you fall, it’s okay, you’re fine.” It’s okay to get up together, and you go on.
Dr. Vic
If we transfer this now into a corporate context, I mean, we have a lot of experience working in the corporate world, it applies as well. If you are a leader, and you do not understand the energy that you are creating, within your team, and within your organization, you’re creating havoc, then you’re not conscious.
Danielle
It’s like drunk driving, your vision, your management is impaired. You live collateral everywhere you go.
Dr. Vic
If, however, you make the effort to see the good that everyone on your team brings, that good is going to be amplified. They will see the good in you. So many organizations we’ve worked with they have leadership resistance, why do you think that is? It’s preconceived notions, in the C suite, you know, “they’re looking down on us, they’re taking the big bonus check and they don’t care about us.” And then the C suite said “you’re all lazy and you don’t get it, you’re not smart enough.” That’s not how we build the future of humanity. This is how we fall deeper into the divide where we are right now.
Dr. Vic
Do you have any good in you? I hope so. I find I’ve interviewed thousands of people throughout my career. Never have I met anybody who told me “you know Victor, I always wanted to do mediocre, I always wanted to do bad in my life.” No, people want to do good, people are driven. People are motivated, people want to draw, people want to show you how good they are. So let them give them the opportunity. Let them be, allow them to be, and they will surprise you day after day if you give them that, and that is an energy. You cannot even wake it up with money. It is so precious.
Danielle
It’s the clarity of intention to do good.
Dr. Vic
Super. I have a wonderful quote here of one of the people that I like, Sadhguru. “If you know how to touch the core of a human being, you shall see the best in all you meet.” That is beautiful. That is exactly what we need. It starts with yourself, can you see the good in you? What good can you do today? You know, that’s the saying “one good deed a day.” That is absolutely true. Make two or three good deeds.
Danielle
Just to yourself.
Dr. Vic
No effort needed. A nice kind word, a smile, a good intention, a charged field that is attractive to other people because they want to be happy too. That makes all the difference in the world. In the end, relationships are always about freedom. When two or more become one, and deal an energy on that platform that is hopefully not skewed like this because one thinks they’re better than the other and they know better, and they possess ultimate truth, and when they say “you know what I allow you to be as well, maybe I don’t know everything that there is to know on this planet and beyond.” That’s when the magic starts-
Danielle
Your life will change for the better and the healthier. All the way around.
Dr. Vic
That’s it for today. Thank you so much for joining us. Find us on theenergyparadigm.com Find us on Facebook, find us on Instagram. Shoot us a question. If you have one. We’re happy to answer it. Have a blessed day.
Danielle
Blessings everyone. Thank you
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